The second problem with keeping our teens from making their own decisions is we lose the ability to help them in the long term.
One day we will not be living beside our young people or have much input over their lives. They will suddenly have full control over what they do, who they spend time with and how they make decisions. If we have not gradually provided more and more freedom while we were there to coach and support them, then their mistakes may have much bigger consequences.
The families I've worked with who have done this well understand that their role as parent of a teen is that of a coach.First, these parent-coaches always have an eye out for what skills a teenager needs to build. They see problems as resulting from skill gaps, not personality flaws. They have conversations with teens to build skills.
What went wrong there? How might that be different? What would you do if this event happened when you were out at night? How do you resist the temptation to be online when you should be studying? Would you like me to tell you how I manage this situation myself?
Me too - don’t have kids!!!
An expert opinion about teens from someone without children.
. Teenagers in Australia growing up in families from cultures that voted against same-sex marriage may need help with becoming independent. East Asian students often look with envy at white Australians whose families allow them to take a gap year. .
60% of the foundation studies that modern psychology was built upon were found to be unrepeatable, i.e. not science at all. So when you see a psyc make claims, ask them to show you the data, if they can't then show them the door. Opinions are possibly arbitrary & so worthless.
Excellent article