Please do not hammer me for presenting this idea. I understand many people feel strongly about the meaning of marriage. I dated a guy for a couple of months, but we agreed to just be friends. He wanted to continue to date, but respected my choice.
He has asked me to be his estate trustee and I agreed to that. He is upset that the portion of his pension that the government contributed to over the last 30-plus years will be “lost.” He asked me to marry him, so I would receive this, in addition to his health-care benefits. He is clear-eyed about this and has made the case to me over several meetings.
He has always tried to help me, but I have not wanted to muddy the waters of our relationship. I continue to date other men, and he has dated other women, some of whom I have met, but I do not have a boyfriend.
Don’t miss: Before I give my fiancée a $7,000 diamond engagement ring, I want her to promise to bequeath it to my daughter I’m not telling you to marry him and I’m not telling you not to marry him. If you are not comfortable with marrying him, maybe you have your answer. If you feel like it puts you in a spot, don’t do it. If it would make you feel like you’re not a good person, don’t marry him. If this offer is made in good faith based on a loving friendship, however, think again.
Would you like to sign up to an email alert when a new Moneyist column has been published? If so, click on this link.
A friend worked at a rest home and related stories of many who offered to marry nurses because they had no surviving family to leave their estates to with only 1 he knew of that did. Perhaps this scenario is more common than anyone knows!
Wow, I was expecting this to be about waiting for LOVE but it was a really good sensible article! Why are Americans so focused on $$, yet they pretend to be interested in LOVE when they date? Transactional relationships work, that’s like the foundation of America. That & slavery.
No, that's fraud.
The easiest way to get out of prison is to never get there, in the first place.
You may owe him a hummer afterward, at the very least.
100% and I would offer a friend the same if the position was reversed.