“You suggested mother buy them makeup and an Xbox to replace what she tossed out due to their fighting. Are you kidding me? These kids can get part-time jobs, replace their own stuff and contribute to the household, or Mom can do it again. Suggest to Mom to hold firm.”The girls weren’t not contributing. It’s not about buying the items for themselves. The mom’s reaction was over the top, but she was obviously very frustrated.
Q: I stuck my foot in my mouth on New Year’s Eve and now my sister and my mom aren’t talking to me. But I have no idea what I said that upset them. We were all at a cocktail party together. Everyone was dressed up, having fun and drinking. Though I didn’t drink a lot, I drank enough that I was loose-lipped. I don’t remember much.
I woke up New Year’s Day and called everyone, as we always do, to debrief about the night. My mom and sister refuse to speak to me, still. My dad is staying out of it and my husband has no idea what I said.Apologize. Profusely. Just keep saying you’re sorry. Once their fire dies down, gently ask what you said that was so upsetting. Be prepared: they may react harshly. But you need to know so you don’t say it again.