Living in the 21st century comes with a range of stresses. It's no wonder it often takes a toll on our mental health. That's why we're always looking for ways to feel better.
Dr Natalie Games, a clinical psychologist at Alliance Counselling, believes this is an issue that women experience more, as society encourages us to develop a habit of saying yes as we strive to be generous friends, wives, mothers, sisters and daughters, while achieving a successful professional life."If we continue to say yes, we are headed for a life of burnout, exhaustion and resentment from saying yes too often when we would rather say no," Dr Games explains.
"I help my therapy clients implement these skills in their lives, as I have witnessed how a lack of emotional boundaries and chronic people-pleasing is at the root of many clients' anxiety, depression and family problems," says Dr Games.Unfortunately, it's harder for some people to say no. Dr Games says sometimes society and different cultures teach us that the word 'no' can be impolite and inconsiderate.
View anger realistically. Anger is only a feeling inside the other person. It cannot "get inside" you unless you allow it. Let the anger be in the other person.Make sure you have your solid support system in place. If you are going to set some limits with a For example, if you're asked to join colleagues for dinner after work, but you'd really prefer to spend time with your family, remove emotions from the equation.