"Kids are expensive and sticky, and I would rather be the fun aunt that does crafts with them and has a beautiful home that doesn't have to be child-proofed," Taylor Schenker, 25, told Insider of her choice to not have children.,"Being an auntie has all the benefits of being a mom … and then I get to give them back and sleep for eight hours."Part of the allure of aunthood is the sense that it offers a chance to be creative with your identity, Sotirin said.
"The aunt becomes who she develops herself as, who she performs as," she said."You can be the loving aunt who shows up with presents all the time, or you can be an aunt who feels just like a mother." The more fluid connection between aunt and child is exactly what appeals to 35-year-old Haylie Swenson.
"There's freedom in that looseness, and I don't just mean the freedom to sleep as long as I want ," she told Insider in an email."Even the best parent-kid relationships have baggage, and I don't have that with my nieces and nephews. I don't have to do anything to teach them how to be people in a constantly changing, terrifying world. I get to just love them, be myself, and let them be themselves in turn.
Being an aunt also doesn't have to be defined by blood. Sotirin said there are a lot of"chosen families" these days, a concept
thisisinsider 2/2 being the cool aunt/auntie is easy, just listen & don’t try to fix them, let them figure it out on their own unless it’s a serious enough problem!
thisisinsider I have an adult son, but my nieces & nephews call me the cool auntie due to my listening to them in a way their parents don’t, also I’m keeper of their secrets! I love them all so much, they are like my own children, yet I’m the cool one that the other 2 sisters aren’t!
Kids — too expensive
I’m a cool aunt to an incredible little girl. My partner & I don’t want or need to make a whole other human with our dna to make us happy. The chosen childless life is one I’m not giving up. Thank you hillary_tweets for recognizing the gayz role in unlearning heteronormativity🙏
HEHEHEHE
Where will they get the kids to be a “cool aunt”
Every mid to late thirties woman I know wants a kid or thinks about adopting. Mostly it’s just self doubt. They made raising kids this massively monumental thing in their heads and they’re terrified of failing.
Can't wait for foetus incubators, saves the mother and child from stress.
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越来越多的女性只想成为“酷阿姨”，而不是有自己的孩子
Population growth will slow down further
What if their sister or brother’s wife just want to be the cool aunt too😂
Within 15 years most of these women will have children.
I've got 'Deadbeat Uncle' on lock if anyone wants to do a story on us!